Two days ago, I learned that there is some people who only want to have me, who only wants to make me one of his possessions, but he’ll never really be there by my side.
Yesterday, I learned that we don’t grow up together. Some of us grow up earlier, some of us grow up at the perfect time, while the rest grow up later.
Today, I learned that there are some good guys who want to be there by my side, without even thinking about making me one of their prized possessions. There are some guys who stay there whenever you need them, whatever you say, whatever you do.
I still don't feel like I know what I want to do for the rest of my life. I'm still here at the media company working as an intern even though I only planned to be here for just four months. You won't know what you want, believe me - so don't complain that it's still unclear and let it all happen organically, like the way Summer woke up one morning and just decided to get married. Stuff like that actually happens.
But the most important is this:
Still finding out who you are.
After graduated you're just about to begin, you're just about to enter a world where you will work with the worst people you've ever meet, watch other people get paid more better than you, and be in new relationships with other people for networking. There will be so many countless moments that will challenge you, tear you apart, and question the very choices that you'll be making. You'll be surprised how happy you'll feel. You won't expect how upset you'll be over pointless mistakes other people make. You know nothing about yourself. You're only just about to find out. Don't be afraid of understanding and getting to know the worst part of you, that will probably be unravelled by someone else's existence in your life. It completes the picture. Let it be.
Life before work felt like a TV series, season after season. After you graduate, you will have all the time in the world, and no one will ever take hold of that. Make use of it. Do you want to be a workaholic? Go for it. Meet with friends? Why wouldn't you. But just make sure you choose what you want. And don't complain when you're noticing something wrong with your friends or your career. Because you can't make everyone happy.
There will be moments when your days will be busy. It will feel like this constant push, and your body will inject itself with adrenaline to give you the illusion that you'll be able to make it through the day. Which you will, of course you will. And when you come home, after a whole day's worth of deadlines - you'll probably end up sitting on the sofa, turning on the TV or Radio - and just do nothing. And that will feel absolutely amazing.
I'm sorry but you have to get used to it, especially if you think you've always been the glue that keeps everyone together. Life will simply move everyone into their own direction, and our lines might not intersect with one another in the future. But it's nothing to be afraid of. Why should it be? Stop thinking that your friends from university and high school will be the only friends you'll ever make. Some won't. But don't think everyone will leave you behind. The people that will stay with you, will stay with you. Let's just leave it at that.
I am a great believer of the saying that getting lost allows you to (re)discover yourself. Sometimes I understand myself better when I get lost. To be alone, a quality time for myself. Wondering about my life, imagining of the things that could have happened, or could not have happened. Recalling the events that have built my life up onto this moment and made me meet the people I've shared my life with, and the (expected) events that did not really make it.
So many things have come up I think it would be very important to take note of them. As a reminder. One day, I might have a look at these notes once again, simply to prevent them from being forgotten.
Being young is not only about leaving a mark in the world. It is also about letting the world leaves a mark within us. May it be through an event, or even more, through a person. So go.
When God takes away something you (thought you) have, usually you are going to get something better. However, be grateful of what you have at the moment. Keep it. Protect it. Or you might end up losing something that matters the most in your life. (And try not to regret when that happens, especially when you have failed in protecting it. Let it wander to a better place, a place that would keep it safe.)
Never fall in love in your sleep. What usually comes as a dream might suddenly show up as a nightmare. Since then, your sleeps and naps would never be the same anymore. Be in love while you are awake. Be in love knowing the risks you take, the 'dangers' you will face. Be in love with a person, not the idea of him/her that you have projected yourself. Be in love with a person, not the idea of him/her that he/she tries to project for you to believe in.
(Always) believe that there is probably a person out there who deserves to get the best of you. (You might meet him/her soon).
The only person in the world who could make you happy is yourself. Before others. (I usually compliment myself with ice creams too, though. Ice creams make me really happy.)
Most of the time, feeling exhausted also means that you have not make your life wasted for nothing. Keep going.
Some people are plastic. You know. And will forever be plastic. Nothing more.
One day, our best friend's life might be hanging on a thread.. On that moment, we just have to be with and for them, however difficult it might be or seem.
Some people are just going to step in and try to ruin everything, but we just have to keep on going. For everyone else is going to come and go, butthe bests are going to definitely stay for as long as they could.
Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.
Real living is living for others.
Last, but not least,
Be happy. Because you only need yourself to be happy, and because you can. Allow yourself to be happy. With or without someone else. Isn't it such a great feeling to realise that we can be happy on our own? As soon as we have allowed ourselves to be happy on our own, then we can be happy with another person.
Don’t forget to press play, well if your life is now paused. Enjoy your August.